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Lately I’ve been feeling very emotional, mostly for valid reasons, but I noticed that this negativity has been causing me to react rather than to respond to my emotions. I have begun to show that side of me, which isn’t the one that I like and often do my best to keep in check and to mortify. As I entered yet another day filled with this poison and in search of how to become joyful, I went in search of inspiration from members of various online communities that have proven successful for me in the past.

After searching the TED app to seek videos about inspiration, I immediately remembered that there was a talk by Brene Brown on vulnerability that I hadn’t quite taken the opportunity to watch yet. As I looked for the video, I came across an interview of Brene by Jonathan Fields on “The Power of Being Vulnerable” on YouTube instead. Why I chose Brene, I’m not sure, but I did find a silver lining and light at the end of my seemingly dark tunnel.

 

The interview included “what it takes to live a good life, vulnerability as strength, how people handle judgment, the intersection between human nature and entrepreneurship, how to decide whose opinions matter, etc…”. Needless to say, it was chock full of great stuff that reminded me to reconnect with myself and my beliefs.  Being vulnerable is the opposite of what I have been doing. My behavior has totally been out of alignment with my belief of treating others as I would want to be treated. And I must be a bit vulnerable and tender hearted, if I am to treat others with compassion.

I believe that a big part of my retaliation was due to the fact that I am not necessarily doing what my heart and mind goes to when it wanders. I feel that my daily life has become mundane and ordinary. It has been difficult to find the moments to relish that used to bring me joy.

Ever since completing my work with the Houston Arts Alliance, my eyes have been opened to many new and wonderful possibilities that I hadn’t considered before.  My hope has been to begin traveling and to explore new cultures in hopes to shed light on untold stories. Admittedly, I don’t have all of the details, but I feel that this is something that I need to further explore.

I want to be more mindful, compassionate, and loving, above all.

Watching the interview helped to remind me that “my life is not my own”. I have been taking my negativity out on those closest to me and I see that I need to be more compassionate and loving. I want to be more compassionate, mindful of how I treat others, and loving, above all.

When I think about traveling there is this intense passion that arises in me and a smile spreads wide across my face. The last time I felt this way was when I returned to doing photography. Of course, I’ll be doing photography as I travel, but there is no shaking this feeling that I have. After reading in a recent post from Michael Hyatt that stated “…by noticing what stirs us emotionally, this is a step in moving toward our destiny and becoming all God made us to be.”, my passion has only grown.

I know God will lead me in the way that I need to go, but there is also some action required on my part. I pray that I will be able to make the right decision – wise decisions – that will allow me to be vulnerable and to be open to all that awaits me. I don’t want to miss out on what God has for me because disobedience or fear.

Have you ever felt like this?

If so, what did you do to overcome your negative emotions?

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“Give thanks for what your are now, and keep fighting for what you want to be tomorrow.”

In the spirit of this season of giving thanks I’ve compiled a list of 30 reasons that I’m most thankful (in no particular order). This list doesn’t just begin and end today, but rather extends into my everyday life. I hope you enjoy it!

1. The Holy Spirit
2. My wonderful family
3. Food to eat
4. Clean water
5. A warm home
6. The ability to do what I love
7. Waking up this morning
8. A loving husband
9. Best friends that are there for me
10. Beautiful photographic images
11. Flip flops when it’s hot
12. Cold weather to remind me to be grateful for hot weather
13. Seasons & changing leaves
14. Beautiful light
15. Opportunities to travel
16. The beauty that lies in hearing the stories of others
17. Dreams & goals
18. Courage to go after my dreams & goals
19. Being able to be a mom to my nephew
20. To know the truth of God
21. My husband’s job
22. Ice cream
23. The ability & desire  to run
24. Great music
25. Natural hair
26. God’s protection
27.  The freedom to learn
28. Great hugs!
29. The ability to adapt to new situations
30. Embracing everything that makes me unique

What are you Thankful for? Share in the comments below.

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As we begin to somewhat settle in our new town, I’m beginning to realize that I am exactly where I need to be at this point in my life. We’ve relocated several times before and I always explore within the first couple of days to find out what I could possibly use as inspiration. I wasn’t always as inspired as I thought I’d be in Houston, sad to say, even with the plethora of resources. I think that when you place limits on your resources and set parameters (not always by choice), it forces you to be creative and use what you have more effectively.

Since being here I’ve been inspired to draw (see above-it’s not much, but it’s more than I’ve done in a long time), which I haven’t done in years, to interact on my social media outlets more (twitter, Facebook, & pinterest) to write more. Not just in my journal, but here and here and Honey Speaks Blog where I actually share my personal feelings. I am very much a private person, but I feel that by sharing my story and life situations I can inspire and encourage others to hold on and to continue on their path.

I don’t feel the best here in our new city, yet, but I’ve learned that life isn’t about feeling, but about doing-taking action. Being in my new home will force me to take action and to do the hard things that I’ve been putting off for so long. I can see that the hard and difficult things need to be done in order for me to reach my ultimate goals. Besides, change is never comfortable.

I welcome the challenges that lie ahead of me, not necessarily happily or with open arms, but I hope to get to that point one day soon. The difficult things are what give us character and bring out the best in us. Here’s to being the best I can be and fulfilling my life’s purpose.

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“There’s been a nostalgic feeling in the air lately and I don’t know why. It’s been very familiar and I welcome it with open arms. It reminds me of the spring seasons when I was growing up in Cincinnati. Everyday I reminisce about a memory from long ago and the things that I would do on a particular day. It’s been quite calming, soothing and joyous. I have found myself smiling more and being more grateful, thanking God for the little things that make up our everyday lives. The little details that our memories are made of certainly have a way of flooding back with just a single familiar smell or sound.”

This is a post that I started a few weeks ago at the stay of spring about how it caused me to begin feeling nostalgic.  I don’t often feel that way, but I was definitely reveling in those moments because they didn’t last long. My days were sprinkled with these moments and it reminded me that spring brings with it a newness of life, hopes and dreams. Every year, I look forward to spring the most.

Now that summer is officially here (at least here in Houston it feels like it’s been here for weeks), I’ve been doing my best to live more mindful and aware these days, today is all we have & I’ve been trying to make the most of it, to be more thankful and to appreciate my trials & what I feel are the negative things that are happening. These are the things we learn from & help us to grow in appreciation to the simpler and less complex moments of life…

 

Share what makes you feel nostalgic or brings back happy memories in the comment box below, I’d love to hear from you!

“Do the Work” by Stephen Pressfield, Art work: Cover by Vincent Van Gogh

“Do the work!”

How many times have we heard this phrase before? I’m sure more than a dozen, and not just from others, but we’ve probably told ourselves this as we’re trying to focus to get a project completed. Well, I just finished an e-book with this title by Stephen Pressfield. It was just what I needed. The premise of the book was to simply do the work. Don’t over think things, don’t stay get in your head, keep things simple, just simply get something down on paper to being and then go back to add the details.

I know all to well about trying to get every last detail right before feeling like I can begin a project, but my aim this year is to do the opposite and to begin when I have an idea and to work out the details along the way. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll still plan, but only enough to get a good starting foundation and to take action. When you allow yourself to get in your head and mull things over or think about all of the how’s and why’s about if something will or will not work, you’ve gone to far, at least in my experience. You’ll eventually find that one reason that frightens you just enough that you won’t take action. Action is required in order to do the work! Clearly!

The book talks about the biggest enemy of action – resistance. Whenever you have a great idea that you want to execute or start a new venture that you’re truly passionate about, you always come up against resistance. This resistance is to prove how badly you want to reach your desired goal. If you hang no long enough and slay the beast of resistance, you’ll reach your goal. It takes passion and a love for what you’re doing in order to keep going when you face resistance. If you don’t truly love what you’re doing and going after, you won’t make it for the long haul.

“The opposite of fear is love- love of the challenge, love of the work, the pure joyous passion to take a shot at your dream and see if you can pull it off.”

Overall, I thought that it was a great book and offered little nuggets of information that can be helpful to those who tend to over-think to the point of no action. If you follow the advice of Stephen Pressfield in his book, I’m sure you’ll get past resistance every time!

What are you working on that requires you to overcome resistance?

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Fashion & Editorial Photography by Debra Ham for theBLVDmag.com

Fashion & Editorial Photography by Debra Ham

 

Now that the new year is here, I’ve been thinking about all of the things that I want to work on and modify. One of the main things that I want is to regain my focus on photography and to begin shooting more personal work that is fulfilling to me. Earlier this year I realized the great importance of creating personal projects as an artist. My 365 photo project taught me that!

A favorite photographer of mine is fashion photographer Lindsay Adler. I’ve been reading through her blog, as I often do, and I have found myself re-inspired to ignite the passion that I have for photography. I aspire to be a fashion photographer and she reminds me of the zeal and attitude that I had when I was starting out. I did lots of free work and personal shoots that helped to build my portfolio. So, I asked myself, if she can do it, why can’t I? And you know? I didn’t even want to come up with a reason why I couldn’t because if feels like I’ve been doing that for too long!

 

Fashion & Editorial Photography by Debra Ham for theBLVDmag.com

Fashion & Ediotrial Photography by Debra Ham

 

Another great photographer is Jamie Delaine. I enjoy her style of work, but what I enjoy most is her honest and carefree writing style along with her love for Christ! She has shown me that I can pursue my passion and still live for Christ and be able to express that on my blog. I’m sure there’s a fine line there between the two, but I don’t want to find it just yet. Our lives are all-encompassing and many areas often overlap. Jamie has approached her blog from this perspective in order to convey her true voice and personality and I greatly respect her for that! She has allowed her light to shine and I see that I don’t (necessarily) have to separate my life from my blog, even though that’s the “norm”. I don’t have to go with the norm and it’s quite all right!

As I embark on this journey, I hope to fuse the inspiration that I have received from these two young ladies with my own personal style and blaze my own trail! This year is looking pretty hopeful and I’m excited to see what awaits me!

What are you wanting to accomplish this year? Do share!

 

Happy 2012

So much transpired last year. Over the past few weeks, I have been taking an inventory of all of the goals that I had for myself this time last year and how many I actually accomplished in 2011. While it’s not as many as I’d hoped it would be, I still feel pretty good about the progress that I’ve made last year in pretty much all aspects of my life – mentally, spiritually, personally, physically and socially.

One of the goals that I had for myself last year was to blog more and clearly, that didn’t last too long, but I plan to make a more concerted effort in the coming year. I feel that with the shifting of some things in my personal life, I will have a greater focus on my career and business in the coming year and be able to throw myself into my work as I remember doing a few years ago without any worries or lack of focus. One of my long passions is writing, which is probably a little known fact about me, but I over analyze what to say and how it will be perceived rather than just enjoying the journey. I keep a journal and I want to be able to share more of myself with my readers so that you can have a truer sense of who I am. So, that will be a work in progress this year.

Another goal that I had at the beginning of the year was to complete a photo 365 project in which I took a photo a day and shared it. This quickly brought to my attention my dull daily routine and I began to lack the motivation to create an interesting photo. I stopped trying and didn’t care…I gave up. While I’m not proud of this, one good thing about beginning the project was that I gained some really great photos that are currently in my portfolio! Beginning this project helped me to realize the importance of doing personal work and projects and the value of personal work. Going into the new year I want to plan and execute more personal projects that reflect the type of work that I would like to have more of, so watch out because it’s going to be awesome!!!

Throughout the year I also crossed a few items off of my 101 things to do in 1001 days list, which I will update soon. This year, I don’t want to be over-zealous and begin to make plans and goals that I know will be unreasonable. I’m starting small, keeping things simple and going back to the basics. I think this simple approach will afford me many successes in 2012 and lots of great changes along the way. I hope to document the process to becoming better all around and sharing it with you in 2012. Stay tuned and let’s grow together!

What will be your focus in 2012?

It’s that time again! Imaging USA is here and I am soooo excited! It’s an annual conference for photographers (and those who are in the business of being creative) that brings together all aspects of running a photography business through fabulous seminars from the industry leaders! There’s also a huge expo with vendors to share and showcase their latest and greatest products.

I will be heading to San Antonio to attend the conference this weekend to attend the conference for the very first time!!! I look forward to learning more about how to improve my business and how to polish my photography skills. I spent the day making plans & preparing for the trip. I will do my best to keep you updated about my time there! Have a great weekend!!!

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This is just a bit about the conference…

“Imaging USA’s mission is to be the first major photographic event of the year that brings together the forward-thinking photographers and business leaders whose ideas spark innovation and change in the industry.

It is the longest running national photographic convention, expo, and image exhibition in the United States, drawing thousands of professionals from around the world. Dating back to 1880, when it began as the annual convention and tradeshow for Professional Photographers of America, the event is always growing and evolving.”

 

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"Normally, we do not so much look at things as overlook them." — Alan Watts. (photo ©Debra Ham)

 

Living in the moment. What exactly does this mean? Some may say that it’s being mindful of what’s going on right now, being aware of your surroundings or recognizing what’s in front of you. To me, it means having all of my senses in tune to what’s going on as it happens. Simply, living life to the fullest.

As a photographer, we must be able to capture life as it happens. If we aren’t paying much attention to the in-between moments (which are often the best) or the little gifts that life offers us everyday, how can we be our best? By being mindful of what is going on around us we are able to give greater value to the images that we capture.

In 2010 I felt that I didn’t appreciate the small moments & the little things day-to-day thing enough. I can remember beginning my day by thinking about what I was going to do later or starting a task and not even paying attention to all of the details because my mind was some place else. I don’t want to go through another year and have it feel like it was a blur because I didn’t take enough of the opportunities given to me everyday to live in the moment.

This year I have made a conscious choice to enjoy the little things in life and to relish as many moments as I can! This will add dimension and a greater sense of joy and happiness to my life. The projects that I have begun (blog post-a-day and my project 365) have already begun to help me to be more mindful this year! Having my camera with me consistently reminds me to be aware of my surrounding and to seek out the wonderful images that are waiting to be captured.

I hope that you have been living your life to the fullest and taking in all that life has to offer. If not, will you join me in living in all of the moments that this year has yet to offer?

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